Do not just fall in love!

Anyone is capable of falling in love. That is the relatively easy part.

Well, the average person falls in love four times during their lifetime. The perplexing part is to stay in love. Why does staying in love so damn hard? The reason is straightforward: keep staying in love requires a lot more effort than falling in love.

At the very start of the relationship, both of you worked your butt off to earn each other’s trust and respect. At that moment, nothing comes easy. The new relationship’s novelty makes you more willing to sacrifice your interests to satisfy your partner’s needs.

However, as you probably know, novelty is not sustainable. It wears off after a certain period. The wife stops shaving her legs and wearing makeup. The husband cancels his gym membership, glues to the couch, playing video games most of the time when he gets home after work. Most importantly, the frequency of sex dropped significantly. Everything felt entitled. A Maya (illusion) occurred — no more work is required to drive this romantic relationship forward.

By that time, the word “love” has become a Noun rather than a Verb. That is when things started to deteriorate like cancer cells. You didn’t notice or feel initially; however, it is already too damn late once you identify the symptoms.

Don’t take your romantic relationship for granted! Keep working on it. Remember, love is a verb.

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